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How to Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

Driving Lessons

I’m learning to drive a stick shift!

I’d tried driving stick a handful of times before, without much success. The first time was in a friend’s Honda in Minnesota, then a minivan when I was an au pair in Switzerland, then in a Mini in Italy, then again in Minnesota in a Mazda.  So I can say that I’ve been given driving lessons in three countries and still haven’t learned. But in my defense, 2/3 of those places were pretty hilly.

When I came out to California earlier this summer, I knew that I would eventually have to learn because it’s the only car available to me here. How bad could it be?

It was pretty bad.

I’ve stalled in intersections. I’ve had drivers honk at me. I’ve panicked when a Tesla pulls up right to my bumper when I’m stopped on a hill. I’ve had times when I came really close to giving up trying to learn. But with practice, it’s starting to click.

And I have to tell you, I have so much respect for people who drive stick now. So much respect. If you’ve only driven an automatic, you just have no idea how much harder other drivers are working to do things you take for granted.

I’m still intimidated by the highways here, because California drivers are intense! And as for parallel parking on Steiner Street in downtown San Francisco, yeah that level of expertise is a loooong way off. It’s hard for me to face my fears and take risks, but I’ve got to do it and drive just a little farther every day.

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How to get out of your comfort zone and try something new

Here are three things that have helped me so far in my new endeavor that takes me out of my comfort zone every time I get in the driver’s seat.

A calm attitude. When I get impatient or anxious while driving stick, I’m more likely to make sudden movements like releasing the clutch too quickly and stalling.

Put pride aside. It’s okay to be a beginner. I announce it loud and proud with a bright yellow magnet on the back of the car that says “Learning to Drive a Stick Shift.” Seriously, this is the best thing I’ve done while learning to drive stick shift.

Keep going. Giving up is tempting, but most things do get easier with practice. I’m so proud of my ability to drive stick now. I feel more capable and confident having this new skill.

What’s one thing you’ve done to get out of your comfort zone and try something new?

How to Create a Vision Statement and Change Your Life

One goal setting technique that WORKS.

Today I’m sharing how you can try the technique that helped one woman manifest the partner, children and job of her dreams in four years. Curious? I was too! You have to hear her story!

My friend Faith introduced me to her vision statement and powerful vision board techniques that can help you make changes in life and reach your goals, and I want to share them with you so you can make this the best year ever. It works by setting your sights on what’s possible. It’s all about intention.

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How to create a vision statement

Faith discovered this technique during a time of hopelessness.  “At the time, I was working in a dysfunctional workplace, was in a painful and unfulfilling relationship and was 35 with no hope of creating the family/children I barely dared to hope were possible,” she says.

Here’s the technique she used: write a statement about how your life is in the future, and date it with a future date. Make it as specific as possible with a focus on the feeling of gratitude you have for meeting your goals.

“It should be written in present tense, as if you have already achieved your goals and created your vision with an example of the specifics. It should also be reviewed and altered on a regular basis as your vision evolves, continuing to add details and change things as needed.”

This could be in addition to a vision board collage with images, or by itself.

Does this sound crazy? Read the rest of Faith’s story before you decide.

How a vision statement can help you change your life

Four years later, her life is completely different. She attributes it in part to this create a vision statement exercise which helped her focus on what was important to her. She’s moved across the country, found a life partner with whom she has two beautiful children, has a fulfilling career in an emergency room and is pursuing a medical degree. That’s a dramatic transformation for sure!

It was Faith and her story that encouraged me to try creating a vision board collage and vision statements at the start of every year. I started in 2016, and it helped me reach my professional goal of adding three new publications to my writing portfolio, as well as some personal life goals. You still need to put in the work, but putting the vision in a written or visual format can keep you focused. As Faith said, “Life still has its challenges but I feel better equipped to handle them.” I’m so grateful to her for sharing her story in hopes of inspiring others!

What do you think about this goal setting technique? Read more about how to transform you life with vision board exercises.